Who beat the students?

How has been your week my dumplings? Have you seen the gory video? Aww, no? See how the Uttar Pradesh police swinging metal batons on any face, machine they laid their hands on. No, you didn’t? Then feel ashamed. Because like every celebrity and editor who tweeted, signed letters asking for non-violent protests and the top judge who asked protestors, READ Jamia Milia Islamia ‘students’ to stop violence and then the bench will hear. Will they tender an apology publicly to the Jamia Students? Will the Indians who blamed the students, wrongly, hang their heads in shame? Haven’t read tweets from editors who tweet sermons admitting to wrongly attributing violence to them. So much for righteous journalism!

But wait, did the topmost judge prostrate for wrongly deducing the violence? Need a repeat of that video, except this time for the Jamia Students. We are waiting. Somehow he seems to have NO clue about uodates regardingajor events around the country. Either he needs a good assistant or he needs to consult the more outspoken apex court judge, yes, from Maharashtra, who upholds ‘dharma’.

What exactly is the Home Minister doing? Haven’t heard after threatening to send some.hugh current shock to Shaheen Baugh. The high voltage shock he got the memes correctly depicted his state. Totally hilaod. Boo, these two bull dozer men don’t give an eff about your kids being beaten, dying. Yes, sure many Richie rich must’ve already made preparations to pack off their kids abroad, but imagine keeping quiet and living in rotten state the way it is being done. While the youth are NOT giving up. Many think it’s all pointless. Now no return, so what can happen. Good topics of discussion, but point to note Shaheen and Mumbai Baugh are still on.

This Maharashtra government is most Thakela and uselss one. They are not interested in governing. So much for the ‘BJP mukt’ state. Seriously, on whose side are they? Their boss man, Pawarful one, says CAA, NRC is anti-Muslims and it should be opposed. While chacha’s bhatija cabinet is busy asking police to take action against protesters. The police toh seem to be ready blues. They thrashes a photojournalist. Broke his spectacles, his fingers were bruised and whacked baton behind his thigh. Ouch. That must’ve hurt. But the boss lady of the area shushed him and had we not reached in time, the entire matter would have been hushed. At least media in Maharashtra leads from the front, be it going to court to challenge gag orders or getting violent cops suspended.

And on a last note, Hello, arre no, not Adele yah. The vahini saheb has RUINED Lionel Richie’s original score. Aai Ganpati shappat. Her hello sounds like halva (shake). Me not knows what she is smoking and for whom that number was. Whoever did the honours, can we pliss to request you to tell her, she rather train her hubby diyar to sing “me punha yein” and spare us. We still LOVE Lionel Richie and his songs. She should stick to her aaichi bhasha, instead.

Shock treatment

Now please to tell me, is this gobermint wanting us to save or not? Going by their khunnas, as we saw in Deewar, after BigB was tattooed with ‘mera baap.chor hai’, same to same the two bulldozer men are behaving like all our baapuses and we have been chors. Arre first we have to work hard, tolerate some real assanine humans as maaliks and some as bad as colleagues, some editors too in the first two categories to manage to eke out a living. Then I am taxed, whether I try to save or travel or now even if I want to listen to myuzik.

Eerie, it is, no jobs, no new employment opportunities and the youth are being grilled, hounded with such strong religious biases, it may take many more generations to reverse this. Sadly, by then, many more would have lost their lives. British said divide and rule, but here toh yuvar own blood eez doing it, duffers. Just see how shot scared they are of that muffler cougher man. PS, I never understood if his cough was real, which means it’s far worse, or fake. Best is to cover your face when speaking with such. But he is doing a decent job. All anchors got a strong jolt when the most unexpected, ordinary citizens of Delhi told them.on camera, they know how to distinguish between national and local issues. They clearly told them to eff off, literally, when few top tv guys tried to arm twist them into believing that CAA, NRC is Delhi poll issue

Now this too dis not work for the bulldozeren, arre same yah, motabhai and feku, they launched few barking puppy dogs like Anurag Thakur. He said ‘goli chalao in gaddaron pe’. One by one all their paid killer terrorists have lined up. How easily people get guns. Much worse, the paid media of this government promptly dug out a fake CBSE certificate, when that was shredded by public, they declared the Gopal fella mentally unstable. By god, he really should not get mad at these provocators and liars. I am.surprised how bhakt trolls lapped up this paid media. Once I wrote, after seeing the whole video of Rahul Gandhi at the FTII, of his interaction with the students. How he faces each one and answers them. Immediately some paid bhakt troll termed me as presstitude, Congress paid journalist. Such stupid idiots. But coming back to these media people on government call, really are damaging our community

Anyway, now another paltu terrorist wentnto Shaheen Baug and pointed a gun. These Shaheen Baug protestors should be given Bharat Ratna. Citizens’ choice. Ganpati shappat, they have put fevicol and are stuck there. Such grit, azad minds, they are true heroes. Women, children especially, have got two of the most powerful, vikrut brains of this country shitting in their pants. Wow! More power to them. Imagine, that motabhai who hasbuniformed and uniniformed gunmen at his bwck and call tomsay the EVM current should send a shock to Shaheen baug, only hope he is not needing to consume string sleeping pills and his sugar is in check. Because, not only the Shaheen Baug votes, but others too send such a string current, that the current will erase permanently, the template of provocation and violence fr the brains of these two bulldozer men. That, For next few generations this party should not be seenninnour elections. Abhi toh drama ki toh shuruvat hui hai.
What’s with Unani, homeopathy and cow’s urine as treatment for coronavirus? Such disbelief in acience is alo part of the larger plan of killing people. Just to put it all in a perspective.

Karma bites

So Mumbai and her green activists are celebrating. Bhide bai’s gachchanti has come through, finally. Think our trees must be breathing easy. It is NOT a petty or vindictive order. Just when a public servant croses their brief and takes on a combative mode against the very citizens s/he has to serve, it is but deserving. Governments come and go, this rule banus have forgotten in the last six years. Can’t blame them. They must’ve felt after 2014, the Bada Jhoot Party is for here to stay. Why would the babu go beyond one’s role, be rude to thf citizens and green activists opposed chopping of trees on Aarey? She wrote such vicious stuff, attacked critics on social media platforms and worse still, sent humongous machines to chop down trees mercilessly at midnight, after the Bombay High Court order. Public servant forgot her basic duty and treated the public like servants. Unsurprising, given her ideology and extreme loyalty to the Big Jhoot Party. Transfer was in offing. But point us, will the Thackeray shift the carshed to another location? Now that is what my feline sense prevents me from believing. I’d love to be proven wrong, but this CM has previous record of settling for land par els.

Damn here, one cannot purchase a 1 BHK, damn, it is barely 1 room we get, while those rule every government, get acres and acres of land parcels, unheard of. Chalo, we should settle of a piddly transfer of a babu, while all agitation is quiet on the forest front. Other agitations are continuing, gladly. These are our only hope, Shaheen Baugh. While, IT trolls of the Big Jhoot Party are slapping themselves hard. Kidhar bhi haat lagao, ungli jal rahi hai, for the two bulldozer men. Thugs they are. That NaMo’s PR team is overactive. Email after email, SMS after SMS, free or what? I’ve reported his email as spam. Then what. Arrey, that Sundarpichai toh gave one tight one na. He shut all windows on the bulldozer duo. Good, now they must be doing havans, consulting babajis. Speaking of whom, that Sad Guru, he is losing his marbles, slowly and steadily. Sheh, still he has followers. Sadly, all these orange toved men and women have quote some followers.

Still badabhai says he will not back down. His ego is bigger than his size. Gawd, quite some size that. Small children are asking why are they doing such wrong? Well, Me thinks Messiah, on Netflix, has made valid point. Like the bulldozer duo, a man with warped, toxic ideas leads jobless, poor people to conflict. The society is pushed into chaos, as the structures collapse. All institutions are diluted, so there is little hope for justice to be delivered. Sounds familiar? This chaos, conflict that the twoonster men have unleashed, helps masses to turn away from our rising bills, inflation, pathetic economy, no justice and killings by the state. Meanwhile, less said the better of our Apex court and their current head. Must add, Saif Ali Khan has become ballsie, he was always, but this time he spoke the truth. There was NO Bharat till 1947. Dudes, he US right. Scores of kingdoms was NOT Bharat, give due credit to Sardar Vallabh Bhai Patel, or like Mahatma Gandhi, his name too will be obliterated from our memories? Never know with current regime.

Aazadi’ from political mess

So much confusion na about who is the minister or not? People should match their kundalis with ekach dada, Ajit dada. Arre, means what, two two times he becomes deputy chief minister with a different Chief Minister and now finance and planning with another Chief Minister. Now tell me how many people are so lucky, after jumping the boat while negotiations are going on, he is welcomed back with open arms, molly cuddled and made the in-charge. But then that is politics. Now it gives credence to conspiracy theory of Ajit’s uncle, full chacha-bhatija jodi.

But what I don’t understand is the Lashkar-e-Devendra. He is so desperate in wanting the gaddi of CM, sheh. He is truly practising day and night, “me punha yein”..whatay sorry state he left the Varsha bungalow in. Did not think he would let child unit and gang scribble rubbish in those walls. Every wall has a story to tell. Come to think of it, these leaders are crying hoarse of students becoming political? Yeah sure. Did you see the things written on Varsha bungalow walls? More incriminating than the students pritesting CAA, NRC, NPR. But then hum kare toh sahi, aao kare toh guilty.

Speaking of students, they have the power. If I were a parent, I woukd have asked the child to go to every protest, READ every poster, compile, compare and listen to those are talking..I am still doing it, except I chose NOT to be domesticated. NOT like the feku who deserted his wife. But if I see hope in the students, can see their steely grit and ‘listen’ to them, they want the same India which is stated in our Indian Constitution. It is NO rocket science. For all those proclaiming positives of CAA, NRC — of course they are upper caste, Aryan descendants, the same, majority of our country– why are they scared of the minorities? You are dominant caste groups, larger in number. You are educated and still you fear? That is how fragile your belief and ideology is? I would then prefer being with the minorities. What gives any government or thugs-cum-politicians right to deny any rightful citizen living in this country the authority to deny citizenship, to those who have been living here since 3 generations? How was this bill even passed? What is that they are hiding?

While the duo bull dozers continue allowing violence, their goonman, the main goonda, ya same to same, man who roams around in orange robes trying to pose as some ‘yogi’ has unleashed violence in University campuses. They want to have NO institutions with alternate thought or ideology. But then what you expect from chaiwala. Also, blame Congress for creating perceptions. That JNU is an elite institution. What they have failed to put across is students from far interiors of India go to JNU to study. You have to slog to clear entrance exams. They do it with zeal. Fact is, the chaiwala is erasing all that is elitist, much like what Communists did, but here, they are ruining lives by interlinking it to religion. Targeting only minorities. There will be a day when these two muscle men and only their bhakts will remain. But as the famous words are: yeh Hindustan humara hai, kisi ke baap ki jagir nahi. The duo right now are wrongly attacking the backbone of our country- students. And these students will not stop from teaching the duo a harsh lesson. May we all support them. Sadly many in the media and police are also perpetuators of violence. They are constantly leaking information, targeting specific members, mainly, the minorities. Like that young lady who held ‘Free Kashmir’ poster.

Sadly, some organisers had a face off with few reporters and then on, a group of reporters were hell bent on exposing anything they got from Gateway of India, causing the police to file cases and subsequently the protests were called off. Some went to the extent of shooting students rolling a beedi, trying to show it was hash and leaked it to the cops. I wonder the police work for the Maha Vikas Aghadi governmen, biased media or the BJP. And wonder how Uddhav Thackeray, Anil Deshmukh are like Alice in Wonderland mode. Ridiculous to say the least. That because she is a Marathi mulgi she is protected and no charges will be slapped on her. Meanwhile, that lady is depressed and is one disappointed lady who must be really feeling angry. Hope she springs back on her feet with a steely grit.

Last goodbyes

Everyday I would say ‘me yete’ when I’d leave the house, as we never say, I am going
then later, I’d call at a specific time to ask have you eaten dinner, how is baba, has he eaten, okay bye. Few words and then when I’d return late at night, I would check on my aai and Baba. How times change when they get older and we become adults. Sometimes aai would get up to go to the toilet and we would be like ghosts in the dark. Next morning, she’d say, ‘good morning raani’ (good morning queen) and life would go on.

December 27, 2018, was last my aai called out to me, she actually screamed for help, wanting relief fr the severe palpitations. After that, there were no exchange of words and she breathed her last on Jan 22, 2019.

We all tried. Many ways and methods to get her to respond. Her facial expressions seemed like she was listening, she wanted to respond, say something. The semlls, sounds, voices, aromas, massage, half a smile and I would convince myself she was feeling, was able to understand it all.

The nurse too said, she was amazed with her recovery, but we knew in medicine there is no miracle, even if many would try to reassure some family members. I was hoping aai would open her eyes and we could say one Last goodbye, face-to-face. Alas, it was never to be

In my baba’s case, he was sharp till his last breath, so we could bid him a farewell. This month its already six months since aai’s demise and I still feel often, I have to call at 8pm, I haven’t asked if they ate. I still feel on Sunday afternoons I need to check on them, ask if they want anything.

Today’s international chocolate day and my aai would sneer at anything that had chocolate. My baba simply loved anything chocolate. I take after him for the same. (Gladly). Ate a Lindt in his memory and shared this sentiment with her, looking at her photo. Of course she knew we were by her side and she was NOT alone..but for 25 days I said aai bye, me yete hoping she had heard me.

Clearing records

As if its not enough that one has to deal with the loss of both the parents within just over one month, one has to personally go and inform each agency, utility, bank and every institution that please to note both are no more. Worse still, every agency and institution then goes on to erase their records. Makes you want to slap them, hello they are no more, but they lived here, contributed and now the agencies are eager to erase their records. Strange is life.

Meanwhile, as one goes with an application to every agency it is a grave reminder of how our country has remained detached from technology, data and coping with the modern day demands. My being a single woman, who has no identity of her own, who has to leave aside everything and dedicate at least an hour on an average at every agency and is NOT taken seriously, especially if unaccompanied by a male is highlighted every single time.

I am time and again asked if I am single, then why no male? And when there has been a male as if its a ticket to paradise, my work gets done in a jiffy. Else I have had to wait for an hour on an average.

This country is just NOT prepared for the single working people. right form the postal services, gas company to courier, your life is a naught because none of the services cater to the working professionals without families. All of these services catered to ‘families’, guaranteeing someone would remain at home to take calls, be there to attend to the services. Now that I go to work from 3.00-11.00pm, when the house is shut, post delivery person will sure shot come to deliver the mail in that time. Then one has to make a special trip to the main post office of one’s area and go on various floors, from first level to the basement.

Try asking each agency do they consider about single working people who have NO relative at home and if they could put the mail directly in the post box or hand over to the immediate neighbour, they ask you to make a visit before 10.30am and speak directly with the postman, nodal person of that agency, if they consider your difficulty. Or usual response, ‘no madam, nothing can be done.’

As for the erasing records, it is less said the better. My only grouse is, we are in the modern days. Everything is computerised, all our records are now on the system and the BMC is the agency which hands over the death certificate, why can’t they all be interlinked and just send out the alert to other agencies -gas, utilities, etc that the person name, DOB, DOD, etc is no more. The onus is on the off spring, kin to do this all, is more traumatic and unnerving. Apart from saving a whole lot of time, it also makes every process transparent and legal.

A day at a time

Forget the relation of the person, how close she is to me and other issues. She is my life and we shall keep it at that. From December 27, our lives have turned upside down, moreover her life hangs in balance since

Before I embark saying anything, I urge all Indian parents, since they can influence their children, all adults to first make a ‘living will’. There is NO guarantee what can happen to us and when it will. This living will is for medical purposes–you want to be kept alive at any cost or would you want to live with dignity till your breath allows you. Because if you don’t make this will, it is not fair to put the onus on your children, (however old) to decide for you. The children are then forced to act on your behalf, in the best interest. Basically, ventilator is NOT living, it is extending life forcibly. And my opinion, after the age of 80, putting a person on ventilator should really be disallowed.

Sadly this country has a judiciary that seems to dictate our lives and have banned euthanasia. It’s the most fucking bizarre ban. Would like the judges to come over and see, why only brain dead should be allowed to die with dignity. Dying with dignity is a fundamental right of any human being. But we being Indians, ruled by regressive traditions, we forget reason and more over human dignity.

Secondly, GO AND READ DR ATUL GAWANDE’S BEING MORTAL. It is truly needed. We all are going to die one day. This does NOT Mean one does not try within one’s reach all the medical options, often beyond what one can afford. But it also means dying with dignity and allowing those who need it.

On December 26, when S began shouting my name and said she cannot bear the pain, the family doctor was called and she was rushed to the hospital. She suffered severe cardiac arrest which made her unconscious. This was in the casualty room, known as emergency room. She became unconscious and has been since then.

The doctors took 7-8 minutes to revive her. Since then she was on a ventilator. The hospital and its staff, moreover doctors are extremely good. My school friend R has been rock solid and were the same voices. It is difficult to accept the situation for some. Each grapples with the situation in their own way. But above all remember if you are close to someone, their feelings, how they lived and would have liked to live or die is paramount. That should be the core of all one’s thoughts, NOT we want to all at any cost. Talk to your elders, family members– do they have any wish, anything that they’d want. S had liked my idea of organ donation, something which I had discussed with her and her Mr years ago. Ironically, just before she fell ill, few days prior to that, she had requested that I write a letter on her to behalf to the family doctor, who had lost her mother and friend of S, expressing her desire to donate her organs or give her body for medical research. But then everything just changed since December 27.

Each one has the over riding feeling they don’t want the last memory of their loved ones on ventilator or in tubes. Nobody does, but if that is the reality, then one needs to accept it. Keep loving the person. From the second day I differed with the family dr and siblings. Because by then I had studied the reports, spoken to doctors and when all tell you, “have faith, there is hope and believe in miracles,” READ THE FUCKING UNDERLYING MESSAGE… NOTHING CAN BE DONE, just take things as they come.

Remember the over riding rule, hope is the most exploited sentiment in the world. And there are whole lot of means and methods to exploit this sentiment. Also remember, once admitted to ICU, this sentiment is exploited. It does not mean you give up, NO. It means think of ways to make the person’s remaining time in the world more dignified, easy and practical for the family.

Once S was brought home, we are learning a lot along the way. It’s on-going. First remember, you need an air bed, hospital bed with a lever, rubber mat, soft big pillows, hard pillows, plenty of hand towels for the patient, nurses (we shall come to that soon), or trained ayahs working in shifts

Entire new diet plan in consultation with doctors, hand mixie, separate vessels, bowls, spoons and a huge vessel for sterilising all crockery and cutlery to be used for patients. Disposal gloves, masks, wet wipes, scissors, thermometer, torch, gowns, oil – olive, coconut, oodh, dhoop.

Firstly keep your views, personal feelings aside and think of what does the patient like around her/him? Well I also put few drops of wine on her lips so remember it’s what that person likes and their lasting memories, while still amidst us.

Have asked the top worker to brings fresh flowers daily. So when S was brought home, since then, fresh flowers are around her, her favourite perfume Chanel no5, which is sprayed on her, her pillow; her favourite music, favourite food is cooked and we all eat. We have a happy environment of serving tea, coffee, snacks for all.

Now coming to few practical requirements, we are lucky since family docs live across and entire family is in medical field. Moreover we live in ‘dinosaur land’ so all neighbours have some gadget or things which are needed. You never know when emergency will stirke.

Tie up with whole sale pharmacist, surgical shops. We again are lucky to live in an area where both are in abundance. You need regular supplies of : gloves, wept wipes, creams, ointments, options, medicated hand sanitizer–enforce it on all, just do not allow anyone to touch the patient otherwise, even if family member, male a list of things needed. Oxypulse reader, BP machine, stethoscope and ask the doctors.

Most of all keep the environment warm, normal and friendly. Remember, even if in coma or not, unconscious state (as in this case), the person IS STILL ALIVE. The person opens eyes, responds to feel, touch, smell and voices, then we owe it to them to make it memorable.

Think of all those the patient has liked, likes, is fond of, either ask them to visit or make video calls, don’t miss on anyone. Let there be people around, always. Crack jokes, tell stories, goad, tease, as one would when the person was speaking to us.

A vital and can’t do without integral part of palliative care, is lot of people are the nurses. Now every ward boy and nurse has started their own bureau, and if you don’t believe check around. Prices vary with most expensive rates in SoBo, because of its location. But if you befriend them and ask them to come directly, its less expensive. You spend an average of ₹2700-3000 is daily nurse expense. Well, equivalent to one month’s pay, literally. It is an expensive feat and most medical insurance conveniently do not cover nurse expense. Something may be you all need to anticipate and plan to include.

Most of all remember, 100s will give you unasked for advice, especially those seem to have ‘seen’ witnessed miracles, dead person walking types. Many self-medication experts will not wait for your response. Simply ignore it, since they will blabber on names of ‘babas’ fraudsters who give some powder or magical cures for those who docs have given up on and are now running marathons. Sure, you know what, mumble to yourself or in your mind, “shove it right up your arse.”

I am sure meditation helps to calm our nerves, some soothing sholokas. Use practical sense which does NOT mean giving up and Live life everyday, is all it tells us.

Choice of being mortal

Recently my father who suffers from prostate cancer informed the uro-oncologist he will not take any medicines henceforth and will not undergo any surgery at the age of 86. This had upset me initially. Not because he asserted his right to be mortal, but in that journey he is opting to suffer, which is what annoyed me. Choosing to die can be without suffering.

When my father turned 82, he had to be rushed to the hospital, for a man who had never been admitted to one, this stint was rather long. 10 days with family doctors telling me be prepared for the worst and it could be total renal failure. I shared every detail with him, prepping to resolve. And if anyone knows my dad, his will power is stronger than steel. Like his mother
(Aaji) and elder sister, both who died.of cancer. Thereafter the treatment we chose was No chemo or or radiation. We opted for hormone therapy, medicines only, keeping in mind the possible effect, one being a paralysis stroke. That also not necessary. But all exceptions are in this family and on the day of Diwali within four months of treatment, father got a stroke.

His journey then onwards has been of immense recovery. Yes, prostate is a slow growing cancer, lily of the patient fyi g of other forms is what is believed. But it’s a cancer with no uniform pattern. With only medicines and his resolve, father can’t climb up and down stairs, but is mobile in the house. He is aging, obviously but looks good. There are days, but that if one assesses rationally, is also part of aging.

During this entire process, the provider, care taker and the patient do not necessarily have the most pleasant relationship. It is.to be understood it will get infuriating, emotionally draining. But patient is going through far worse and one needs to be slightly detached. It only helps to maintain sanity. During this time my school friend, a doctor pushed me to read ‘being mortal’ by Dr Atul Gawande. Well written, in detail how aging and old age illnesses, terminal diseases for aged impacts lives of all those around and most of all the patient.

Having experienced it all, read it, when father said no more, I did try to reason (believe me its tough) of don’t opt for suffering, but he has made his choice. We have to respect it. Saying is easy than experiencing it. But guess that is life,a journey.

The treatment has not been easy, absolute depletion of resources, but that is something you opt for if one does not want the patient to suffer. We opted for making father’s life comfortable and not to prolong it,that is right up Dr Gawande’s medical ideology. This end,too is. I too believe if one has led a whole life and instead of suffering opting wilfull death is a better option. But in a country where judiciary determines our private loves, euthanasia will never be allowed. Sad, till then all those whose end is known are forced to suffer. Their only choice is to wait for the end.

Meanwhile, discussions on organ donation have been taken seriously and steps towards getting it endorsed from the family doctors in process. These realities too need to be openly discussed and weighed. An open relationship with the family doctors helps. It’s a way forward, I believe and when I first discussed, few years ago, father was fit and fine. Both took it seriously, but till now we didn’t work towards it

The one stark fact that hits you in the face is this country is just not prepared for old age oppmedication. We have no decent medical centre, it’s your luck..to get good doctors who have got, good faculties and treatment. This whole waiting for death is tragic. We need to find a way around it. Which can only come with futuristic options,R&D,facilities. Not sure iny lifetime I will see.

Give yourself a treat this Diwali

Diwali and festival time is for giving and sharing. I will share my fine experience of a fantastic Japanese spa treatment at Aeropagus, at Sukh Sagar, in SoBo.

I had featured them when they first launched at Shivaji park 10 years ago and must say their training and quality of treatments are up to the mark. For me a lot of things make Aeropagus a favorite. First of course is the location, which is close-to-home near Girgaum Chowaptty. Second the services, top class. The therapists are well trained, who have a firm hand and excellent grip. Third, is their ambiance, which is really warm and nice. Last, they are clean and hygenic. They are strong and receptive to one’s suggestion.

I can suggest, one must try their Signature Therapies. Take some me-time out from one’s daily rushed life to try their Signature Therapies. Shiatsu is a Japanese massage modality developed in 1320. “Shi” means fingers and “Atsu” means pressure. The Japanese Ministry of Health defines shiatsu as “a form of manipulation by thumbs, fingers and palms without the use of instruments, mechanical or otherwise, to apply pressure to the human skin to correct internal malfunctions, promote and maintain health, and treat specific diseases.

There is Grounding Therapy, then for lovers there is a treat, so both can get relaxing therapy, Cupid of Lovers. Aeropagus Signature is fantastic therapy and after a hot shower, one can feel rejuvenated and refreshed. I have also tried the Tai Chi, if a person likes a bit rough and tough, exercise kinda massage, believe me is therapeutic. Along with a Ritual foot spa.

My therapist was a thorough professional young lady, who had a strong grip and when doing Tai Chi exercise-kind therapy, it was like a treatment my body needed.

The entire experience is definitely one which makes you want go back for more. And this festival season this is one gift we can give to our loved ones, families and friends. Spa treatments as gifts are not passe’, rather much needed in today’s lifestyle that one has, full of tension and hard work. Not all can travel extensively as one would like. This is a good way to invest in some me-time.

A humbling experience

Last week I was invited by the principal of Ela Sarawat School as the Chief Guest, for the farewell of their tenth class students. The biggest lesson I learnt, educated professionals like us are immensely privileged and we should be thankful for our education and the opportunities we have got. Moreover, be humble about it. My experience to the slum school and their function was most humbling. Children can be happy and can still be innovative in the most stifling environments, it is a miracle.

This school is located off the kachcha road at Malvani. Now if anyone remotely thinks India is a highly developed nation, a political and economic superpower, I request all to take a walk to this school for a reality test. Your stomach will churn, you will develop a lump in your throat and as you approach a brightly coloured school from the front, by the time your vehicle has moved towards the muddy road entrance, the entire school and Junior College resembles a rather posh slum.

This is the most depressing part. The school is run by a family trust which has the best colleges and school in the elite part of Bandra. But they seem least interested in giving money to this slum school. Guess the family treats this as their Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR) project like many forced CSR projects run in India. As I recovered from being half covered by mud and tolerating the stench, I was asked to jump on a motorcycle to reach the venue which I was told was 10 minutes away. I was taken straight inside a slum. The roads were not continuous or well-laid. After every plot completed and next began, the middle portion was patched unevenly by rough concrete with no guarantee of balance. Goats and adults strayed in our path, carts were strewn in the middle and more stench from gutters which killed me bit by bit. It was a complete culture shock, to say the least. Mind you, I have covered stories in the gullies of slums in this city, but Malvani is inexplicable an experience.

We were made to sit in a duplex slum, the upholstery was rich for the environs. Later we were taken to a terrace, where there were no fans! An asbestos roof (killer) and the four sides open, completely surrounded by slums. One clarification, these slums are concrete, tin roof-shed types. Obviously there were peeping tots from surrounding neighbourhood. Finally the trustee, member of a rich Muslim family that owns numerous educational institutions made an appearance. Crisp white pants, silk shirt and white shoes, of course. Why did I seem surprised? Felt my eyebrows rise in horror. For the gentleman, this school is a compulsion and how they make it public! I cannot even remotely imagine a school with NO playground, but here was one. The principal T, is one beautiful, creative lady with a nerve of steel. She had whispered, this trustee, after much pleading had given the principal only Rs 2000/- for the school’s sports day. I was shocked beyond belief. Rs 2000 per child I would have believed, but as she told me with disbelief I seriously wanted to throw this man over the terrace. These kids will grow up into adults who have no medals or certificates to show their children and grand children. No extra cirricular activities which can hone their skills and help them discover their personalities, in the first place.

As I inquired about the school results, I got the best news which lifted my spirits. The school has a record of 98-99% results and same was the case for junior college. Imagine for a school that caters to may be the first generation learners, living in complete poverty–to come out of their deprivation and achieve these results is definitely a huge achievement. It is way above the 90+-100% high scores the rote learners, from rich families get after numerous tuitions and coaching. The school has zero extra curricular activities, music, other hobbies and the trustee has banned teaching or learning Music in this school. It was a like flash across my eyes, ‘how to make criminals’ that pervades such mentality.

Now in this environment yours truly was invited. If anyone knows anything about me, I love to break rules. I lived on the playground till I was forced out of injuries in my twenties; this was going to be one challenge for me to reach out to students from this school to motivate and inspire them. What can I tell someone who has never been on a ground? Hats off to T who simply has immense faith in me.

So the first rule I broke was to tell the trustee that he has a creative and a wonderful principal. Second rule I broke, to tell him sports IS important for the overall growth of children and third, to tell him it is amazing the students have given laudable results despite the impediments. I only got polite nods. And yes, he was felicitated and he simply walked out.

After his exit, it was like a heavy air was lifted from the terrace. Then there was a party. It may be the first time I have witnessed a farewell of this sort, where teachers put up a skit. Must give it to them, talented lot of teachers with minute observation, depicted the behaviour of their students. This was followed by another round of some beautiful singing. 3 talented teachers- lady sang, 1 played guitar, other the piano. Now the lady teacher comes from strict, conservative Muslim family. She is immensely gifted but is barred from singing (such tragedy). She loves it and is her passion, knowing her circumstances, the principal lets her sing in such events.

Around this time I heard the teachers dedicate a song to one Imran, who is no more. I was told he was given wrong medication and treatment by a hospital after he fell ill and died. I was aghast. Imagine the circumstances in which these kids are surviving. Lack of education, facilities and basic primary health. This was just 2 months before the board exams. This is the pathetic condition of our poor. A kid died only because of lack resources prevented the family from even getting the right medicine. The tribute brought tears to the eyes of the entire class. I am hopeful with this lot, after seeing young boys cry. By god, I held myself back, it was an absolutely low moment for all.

I was further informed, these adult teachers had never heard of the word, trek. And contrast it to our lives, I began to go on hikes and treks from fourth standard. The principal took them on a trek in Thane district and now they are excited to go on more.

I had to talk to motivate them to break rules, become fine adults and more so fun-loving. My concern was for the girl students. I was thrilled to hear from the students none of the girls wanted to marry soon. 1 wants to be a dancer, 1 a journalist and most had some dream. And I am eternally hopeful after listening to their dreams. They were happy, smiling, sang, danced and were not influenced by the forced choices expected from girls. Imagine an open terrace, kids from neighbouring slum terraces looking into, no great acoustics, no auditorium, no great food and still they had big dreams, were hopeful and believed in change. Wish Gandhi was alive to witness this.

The staff and principal are immensely creative. They lit a candle of knowledge, painted pots, cards with personalised touch to make us feel special. I can only say this is one school where teachers are surely doing a revolutionary job. They need more power and it only reminds us we take our privilege for granted.

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